The first intensive exploration of the unrecognized psychological and social aspects of this increasingly controversial American cultural practice. Endorsed by dozens of professionals in psychology, psychiatry, child development, pediatrics, obstetrics, childbirth education, sociology and anthropology.
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"What's done to children, they will do to society."
"Parents do not know what they are choosing, and physicians do not feel what they are doing."
"In response to circumcision, the baby cries a helpless, panicky, breathless, high-pitched cry!...[or] lapses into a semi-coma. Both of these states...are abnormal states in the newborn."
"Doctors who circumcise are the most resistant to change. They will not admit that they made a critical mistake by amputating an important part of the penis."
"In this case, the old dictum 'If it ain't broke, don't fix it' seems to make good sense."
"A whole life can be shaped by an old trauma, remembered or not."
"If we are to have real peace, we must begin with the children."
"We are interconnected. When a baby boy's sexuality is not safe, no one's sexuality is safe."
If Your Son is Not Circumcised
If you choose not to circumcise your son, there are additional steps to take to insure his well-being.
Many doctors are not aware of normal foreskin development because they were not taught about this in medical school. They may force the retraction of a young boy's foreskin before it is ready. (Sometimes retraction doesn't happen naturally until as late as adolescence.) Forcing the foreskin back can cause pain and injury. Talk to your doctor to be sure that your son's foreskin will be left alone.
Before your son has an opportunity to see other boys' penises, explain to him why some other penises may look different. Let him know that he has a natural, complete penis while some others may have had a part cut off. Tell him why you chose to keep his penis whole. With this knowledge, he will understand the difference and appreciate that he is intact.